This girl I’ve been dating; spoiler alert, she dumped me and I still find it hard to call her my ex. When does one start calling the other ex? Anyway, I really loved that girl. She had a big heart; it is one of the things that attracted me to her. She had her own share of weaknesses like when she would tell me, “I know I am somewhat selfish with myself but you understand right?” and maybe I did understand or maybe I didn’t. Maybe she was a tad selfish with herself, it didn’t matter, she was a good person. Her favorite phrase that she loved to tell me was “I gatchu babe, I gatchu. Don’t panic you got me”. Well, one day my beautiful big-hearted girlfriend texted that she wasn’t sure about us no more and so she broke up with me. Ha-ha I know. I know.
See, when I look back, I realize c’est la vie. That’s just how life is. Ordeals such as my break up with miss big heart make us want to take control of the events that happen to us before they happen. We feel so defenseless when life happens to us and we have no control over it. So, what do we do? We try to take control over everything. We want to be prepared for any unprecedented moment of our life. We want to go out every single morning and come back knowing that we did something about the outcome that we want to experience.
Ruth 3:5-6 “I will do everything you say,” Ruth replied. So she went down to the threshing floor that night and followed the instructions of her mother-in-law.
Ruth 3:18 (CEV) Naomi replied, "Just be patient and don't worry about what will happen. He won't rest until everything is settled today!"
Naomi takes it upon herself to find a husband for her daughter in-law Ruth, she gives her instructions to which Ruth gladly replies “I will do everything you say” and she steps out and follows everything she’s been instructed to do. When the mission is over and every instruction has been followed, Ruth goes back home but she ain’t sure it worked, she’s still worried. “Did I make good impression?” “Is it really gonna work?” “what if…”
What is she doing? She wants control of the situation. It feels defenseless when your destiny is in someone’s else hands. You not sure if they’ll do the assignment as you’d have done it. But beloved, God never designed life to be like that. The secret to making it in this life is one to follow instruction. No one makes it on their own, we need a Naomi in our lives, someone who’s gone ahead of us. Secondly, after you’ve diligently done what needs to be done and obeyed every instruction given to you; wait, be patient because the matter is with the Lord and He won’t rest until the matter is settled. The waiting place I should warn us, is not really an easy and comfy place to want to be because it means letting your guard down and having someone else take the wheel. What makes the waiting worth it, is the fact that we draw confidence in knowing that unlike human beings who got your back today and tomorrow they’re stabbing the same back, we have a God in heaven that we can count on two - four - seven.
Stop beating yourself too much, lean back in the loving arms of the beautiful Father, breathe deep and know that He is good, breathe in the deep goodness of God, breathe in His loving kindness and know that while you wait, while you may be in your chapter three of your book of Ruth, honey, He is writing your chapter four without you moving a finger. He gatchu.
Child of God: Wait; The Matter Is with the Lord.